My Advice to You

So, Welder Guy and I have been married for six months. That doesn't make me an "expert" by any means. I don't think I'll ever be an expert, but I do have some advice for newlyweds or engaged couples. Women, don't lose yourself. You are so much more than "so-and-so's wife." I know how exciting it is to say "that's my husband." Trust me, I do. I still get excited saying it, but no matter how much I love Welder Guy, I am more than just "Welder Guy's wife." I am Sarahbellum. I am stubborn, mature, immature, hard-working, Starbucks Barista, daughter, sister, friend. I love Welder Guy with everything I am, and I will always be Welder Guy's wife, but I am not JUST Welder Guy's wife. I think it's silly to combine EVERYTHING after marriage. Why do you need to combine your facebook accounts? Your myspace accounts? Your email addresses? Your bank accounts? Now, don't get me wrong. Welder Guy and I have a joint bank account, but we also have our separate accounts. We have one joint email address, but we have kept our individual as well. We are not joining our facebook/myspace accounts. We are still our own people. I don't understand losing yourself in a marriage. Marriage is when two people come together to make a better unit. Welder Guy and I were individuals before we met. We're still individuals, but we make each other happy, so we joined together as one unit. I don't understand never being Sarahbellum again. Why be Sarahbellum Welder Guy?